Aug 11

Peanut’s Geeky/Sexy Reading List

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“We need to make books cool again. If you go home with somebody and they don’t have books, don’t fuck ‘em. Don’t sleep with people who don’t read!”

–John Waters, a wise man and a snappy dresser.


You’ve probably heard the phrase, “If you can’t talk about sex you have no business doing it.” I think this should be taken a step further. If you haven’t read any books about sex then you certainly shouldn’t be doing it. I started reading everything I could about sex long before I started having it, and I have helpfully compiled a list of the best of the best books out there.

TL;DR I give you six (or seven) books you need to read before you get laid again.

Bonk, by Mary Roach

Bonk is my all time favorite sexuality book. More specifically, it’s a book about sex researchers, a wacky sub-set of scientists battling propriety throughout history just to tell you more about your junk. Mary Roach writes with a light-hearted, whimsical style about subject matter that is fascinating and ridiculous. (She also has books on the researchers of human corpses, the afterlife, and how astronauts poop. Read them all, but read Bonk first.)

You can see Roach talk about orgasms at TED.

Monkeyluv, by Robert M. Sapolsky

All right, this one isn’t technically about sex. It’s a collection of scientific articles about what we’ve learned about the human animal by studying the non-human animal, but almost every essay touches on sexuality in some way. The book opens with interviews from People Magazine’s 50 Most Beautiful People, all asked the same question: is it nature or nurture that made you “beautiful”? This nature vs. nurture debate becomes the prevailing theme of the book, later expanding to everything from what makes a living organism sexually attractive to what makes a living organism prone to anger, stress, or infidelity.

Blow Him Away/Going Down, by Marcy Michaels

The former is a guide to fellatio; the latter is a guide to cunnilingus.  Pick your poison. What sets these books apart from your garden-variety oral sex guides is that Michaels is a trained speech therapist. Who better to give insight on how to use your tongue? At the beginning of each book she puts the reader through a sort of oral obstacle course to gauge dexterity and stamina, and follows it up with an extensive list of exercises to improve both and also make you look like a jackass while you read.

Both books lose a lot of credibility once you get to the tips for practical application, but the exercises listed in the first half of the book (and both books have the exact same first half) will certainly improve the moves you’ve already got.

Candy Girl, by Diablo Cody

Before Diablo Cody became famous for writing the screenplay for Juno, she was a stripper. I wanted to include a sex worker’s memoir in the list because sex workers are awesome people and everyone needs to know that. Cody enjoyed her career and her witty, insightful style makes her memoirs or it a great read and a telling peek into the psyche of a happy stripper.

The Ethical Slut, by Dossie Easton and Chatherine A. Liszt

This has become the must-read book for anyone with even a passing interest in polyamorous relationships. It explains in plain English why someone might want to be poly, how to avoid common pitfalls, strategies for dealing with jealousy, and much, much more.

There’s also a fantastic section on raising children in a sex-positive culture that I think should be mandatory reading for all parents who plan to continue enjoying sex after children.

Different Loving, by William Brame

The best introduction to BDSM-based relationships I’ve found. It’s difficult for most people to perceive a relationship in which one partner regularly hurts (consensually,) abuses (consensually,) or degrades (consensually) the other partner as a healthy, loving relationship. This book does a great job of explaining how it’s not only possible but can result in a whole new level of love and trust between partners.


Go. Read.

1 comment

  1. Torgden

    That was one of the more entertaining TED Talks I have watched, and now, should the need arise, I know how to stimulate a sow!

    I do not forsee the need ever arising for me.

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